Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Focus on the Truth

I was recently talking with a woman at church, and she was commenting about how she hadn't heard from a friend of hers in a while. "She's been ignoring my calls and texts... I wonder if I've done something to upset her," she said. She was very upset. This is a good friend of hers and they usually talk almost every day. But it'd been over a week without a word. What had she done to make her friend so angry at her? Had she said something? Done something?
I asked her if she knew for a fact that her friend was angry with her. "She hasn't talked to me in days!" was her response.
How many days, weeks, even months have we worried about things of which we have no proof? Philippians 4:8  tells us Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
This gentle soul at church was becoming unraveled because she was afraid her good friend was upset with her. Based on what? Lack of communication. That doesn't always mean anger. There are a number of reasons for silence on her friend's part.
She was worrying about something she didn't know to be true. She was assuming. She was wasting a lot of hours obsessing. She was letting this situation steal her joy.
I gently reminded her of these facts. She looked at me as if I invented sliced bread and hugged me. She knew I was right. She would wait on communication from her friend.
It turns out that her friend had lost a relative and was not ready to talk to anyone. She was grieving. The lady I spoke to did nothing wrong.
It's hard, sometimes, not to jump to conclusions. We are presented with a situation and obsess about several scenarios about how the situation started, how it might end, or the reasoning behind it.
A friend of mine was at work, and her boss told her that he was going out, but wanted to see her in his office when he returned. (Why in the world he would say that, I have no idea. lol!) My friend spent two hours obsessing about the impending meeting. Was she about to get fired? Why? What had she done? She tried to work hard and be as productive as possible. She ended up getting promoted. But she wasted two hours of her life she'll never get back. Worrying.
So, my dear friends, let us try not to worry about the "what if's." Focus on what you know, and go about your day. God is with you. He has your best interests at heart. Whatever happens, He has something wonderful in mind for you. :)

1 comment:

  1. Hello, This is such a great truth! If we could get back all the wasted, worring hours we could used more wisely!
    Looks like your new blogging sister! Really nice to meet you!
    Have a wonderful week!
    Blessings, Roxy